Assumption

“In times of stress, the best thing we can do is listen with our ears and our hearts and to be reassured that our questions are just as important as our answers.” – Mr. (Fred) Rogers

Do you know the saying, “When you assume it makes an ASS out of U and ME”? Assumptions can lead to pain, heartache and distrust. We assume we know another’s thoughts, intentions, or reactions; however, we are often misled by our “assumptions”. An assumption is something we think is true without proof.

Assumptions spring from our own biases, perceptions and often our own desires. We can practice letting go of assumptions and commit to building our communication with others based on authenticity and trust. Be concrete and detailed about what you say and what you mean. Ask others to clarify their thoughts, so you fully understand them. Do not assume you know the intentions or motivation behind someone’s words. It’s better to be proactive than reactive. 

Something to think about:

Connect: Think of a time when your “assumptions” caused you and a close family member great pain

Clarify: What assumption did you assume and how could you have handled it differently? Was your ego and personal biases effecting your assumptions? 

Commit: to keeping reactions in check and suspend judgement until you have all the facts. Ask the other person to clarify their intentions, so you can restate your own.